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Overcoming Fears: Lowering The Gradient In An Effort To Meet Up With Girls And Connect With Girls
A couple of weeks ago one of my close friends asked a question which i thought was worth talking about. He inquired about how to overcome fears that pop up at times - even when everything is going good.
To be honest it's not at all a simple question to reply to considering that it varies for every person. There are literally thousands of books that have been written on that matter only. However, one of the best ways I have used to overcome my fears generally involves lowering the gradient.
Exactly what are gradients? Gradients are like steps on a ladder. If you try to reach the top of the ladder on your first step, it will be impossible and you may fail. If you keep trying it again and again you may begin to build up a "complex" regarding failing, and soon stop trying anymore.
If you try to jump up five or six steps in your first try, it will also be frightening - not necessarily impossible but frightening. Probability is that if you have no experiences leaping that high you may fail too.
The correct approach is to take the initial step and then advance one-step at a time. It is the most comfortable method to climb a ladder.
Here are some examples of how I apply that to get over fears that pop up in meeting women and dating women:
As many guys do, I often go out to meet women in a social setting. Sometimes it is particularly frightening. Therefore when I am approaching a good looking woman in a social setting, instead of telling her how beautiful she is and how much I am fascinated by her (that exposes my fear of being shot down in front of lots of people and embarrassed) I lower the gradient of approach and just say "Hi." If a girl likes you or has an interest in you she will find a means to continue the conversation. If she doesn't then i understand she is not interested in me and the simple "Hi" just shows that I am friendly - not necessarily even flirting - thus I don't feel shot down in front of many people.
If I am starting to date a woman and I am afraid of taking the next step of trying to get intimate with her, I don't ask her "Would you like to get intimate?" I take a lower gradient and ask her if she wants to chill, get cozy, and just listen to music at my place. If she doesn't want to get intimate she surely won't wish to be alone with me, getting cozy at my place. Or instead of trying to suddenly "kiss her", I will simply hold her hand or give her gentle touches every now and again to discover how responsive she is to my touch. If she likes my touch she will start touching me back to render me with the go ahead signal.
These are a few examples. If you feel awkward and scared just try to consider a lower gradient that isn't as frightening and enables you to make forward progress toward your main goal. If you do this you will know how to meet women and the way to connect with them in a short time.
Overcoming Fears: Lowering The Gradient In An Effort To Meet Up With Girls And Connect With Girls
When you feel uncomfortable and fearful just try to think of a lower gradient that isn't as scary and allows you to make forward progress toward your goal.
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